Today I'm writing about how my goals for the first half of 2014 went.
If you've been around here a while, you might remember my post about using Powersheets for the first time at the beginning of the year. Powersheets are a tool to help you figure out what your core values and passions are, what your dreams are, and what steps you need to take to make it all happen (you can buy them here!).
I love writing about my goals for a couple of reasons:
- It keeps me accountable, knowing I have to write a post every month about how I did. Nothing like a little social pressure!
- I want to encourage you to find your passions and develop goals to make those dreams happen! I know sometimes your goals can seem unattainable. But for me, reading about the process others take motivates me to try new things and stay focused on my priorities.
- I can look back on my blog posts from every month and see how far I've come! It's easy to forget where I started, if I don't keep a record. Reviewing your goals - and what worked and what didn't - is crucial to successfully accomplishing them!
At the beginning of the year, I went through the Powersheets process of writing about my life story, what fires me up, what has held me back in the past from living the life I really want, and praying over what God wants me to focus on in the coming months.
Here are my five original goals, and my thoughts on what has happened in those areas in the past six months.
These goals are very fluid and not the typical check-the-box goals. It's really more "life development". Read below, and you'll see what I mean!
I want my relationship with Andrew to flourish. I will be more encouraging, find ways to express my love and respect for him, and support him with prayer and a listening ear in this season of change. I will not use critical or negative words, but will choose words of life and truth that will help him become who God wants him to be.
Wow, people who say that having a kid changes your marriage forever are not joking. It's the truth. I think being sleep deprived and stressed out has often brought out the worst in me. But through God's grace, I've learned that I need to use my words for encouragement, not for tearing down Andrew or criticizing him. If he does something differently than me, that's ok!
We've also been lucky to get in date nights away from the baby here and there. I've realized how crucial it is to take time out to focus on us.
I'm thankful that our marriage is in a healthy place, despite all the changes and challenges we've gone through.
I want to transition well into motherhood by finding a rhythm and schedule that works for our family. I will manage our home efficiently, continue in hospitality, and work to know my son and understand his needs.
I am SO thankful we've gotten Declan onto a decent schedule! Naptimes are still hit and miss, but we've followed the principles laid out in this book, and they have really helped. Everyone comments on how laid back and happy he is, and I attribute it to God giving us an easy baby and also giving that baby lots of good sleep.
We've also been able to get back into a rhythm of having people over to eat and hang out, hosting couch surfers, and continue using our home as a place of rest and ministry for others.
I will intentionally pursue relationships with other women in life and online, with expats and Cambodians. I will choose to invest words of life and encouragement that will point others to Jesus. I will allow God to reveal my heart issues that cause me to use words of judgement, criticism, and gossip. I will also open my heart to others speaking into my life, too.
Here in Poipet, it's difficult to build consistent relationships with people when everyone travels so much. I've learned to give people grace and try to stay in touch even just by calling them up or sending a text to let them know I'm thinking of them and praying for them.
And online? I am so thankful for the relationships God has allowed me to build with other bloggers and women I've connected with on the Internet. They have challenged me, prayed for me, and encouraged me in ways I can't even begin to express. The internet is part of real life, and it is building the kingdom of God!
I want to develop my knowledge and skills as a cross-cultural worker and nurse, especially as they relate to Cambodia and nursing in a developing nation and to pediatrics. I want to keep my skills sharp, so I can transition well back into nursing in America, when that time comes.
I haven't been able to do as much nursing as I'd have liked to - obviously, since I'm staying at home with the baby! But the past month, I have started teaching health classes every other week on Sunday afternoons to the women at church. In Khmer. Which is crazy. But God is faithful, and somehow we all learn together! I've learned a lot about the culture and what women need here through these lessons!
I want to refine my voice and skills as a writer, connect and collaborate with other women, especially expats, and learn more about inspirational design, so that JM will grow its readership and its effectiveness in pointing to Jesus and encouraging others in their life journeys.
I have enjoyed writing on this blog so much the past few months! Seriously, if I didn't have this creative outlet, I would be a crazy woman (or maybe crazy in a bad way, instead of the good crazy that I am?). I've been able to guest post for a couple friends (Rachel in Djibouti and Rachel in Mexico, among others), join community groups to help me define the blog's mission better, take classes on Photoshop from Skillshare, and join up on some really fun blog link-ups.
And my favorite thing is when someone writes me and says, Hey, that post you wrote? That was for me. God spoke to me there. Because that's what it's all about - pointing to Jesus and encouraging you on whatever journey God has you on.
I've written different goals for the rest of the year, but I think that's enough information for today!
I would LOVE to hear from you - what is one thing that keeps you from reaching your goals? Is it staying motivated, finding tools to help you get there, or even just the process of figuring them out? Let me know if there's anything I can write about that will help you!